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What is your main priority these days? Where is your focus? Are you struggling with your job, your kids, or your relationship? Is your workout a struggle? Have you not been able to even start a workout yet? Is it all of the above?

Where are you on your list? I have news for you. You should be on top. No, your spouse doesn't come first. No, your children do not come first. No, your job does not come first. You cannot expect to give 100% of yourself to anything if you don't give 100% to yourself first.

In nature, God provides for all creatures by making them provide for themselves first. Lions who do the killing eat first. Then they share with their mates, then their offspring, and if there is anything left, the remainder of the pride. It is important for the one doing the nurturing, the teaching, and the parenting to nurture, educate, and in a sense, parent themselves first. We cannot teach or motivate if we aren't following our own rules for success.

Are you unmotivated? Do your children come home from school to see you parked in front of the television watching Oprah? Do you send them outside on the weekends without participating in their play time? Do you cry when life doesn't go your way? Do you give up on the simplest tasks because you have lost your patience or motivation? These are all learned processes. No one teaches this to your children except you. You are the one that your children look up to. You are the one your spouse looks too when their day was bad. You are the one expected to take on the extra work when your boss comes to you in desperation. Can you honestly do all this if you don't have belief in yourself? You know what I'm talking about. Do you believe you can do the impossible? Do you live it? Do you put yourself first?

Selfishness is not for pussies. It isn't easy to put yourself first. Why? Most likely because we weren't taught to live that way. We were told to always do for others. And that is fine! Just do if AFTER you do for yourself. You don't need a huge ego, and you don't need to make the doorways in your home larger just to fit the big head you may be thinking that you need. You just need to re-prioritize your life. There are many around you who don't and I bet you could pick all of them out. And I bet you could pick out the ones who do! They have amazing attitudes. They practice what they preach. They look like a million bucks. They have learned how to say "no". They have figured out the key to success and happiness. They put themselves first but they ensure that there is room for the spouse and the children. And everything else comes last. Sacrifices are made, don't get me wrong, but great things come from that. Great things!

One of the first things you hear when you board an airplane is "If a drop in cabin pressure occurs, oxygen masks will release from above you. Secure your oxygen mask first and then assist those next to you." Read that over and over. Read it a few times. Allow it to sink in.

Make yourself the priority. Secure yourself. And I promise that everything else will fall into place.